Nothing New Under the Sun

A fellow Blogger AJ, "All Your Bloggs Are Belong To Us" posted a story about an old friend whose wife took him away from all his buddies and kept him for herself. Why do some marriages end up that way? The answer to that question lies within both the man and woman. The signs of a person's weaknesses are always there for us to read. The trouble is, most of us can't read the signs, especially when we are young. For example, moodiness to the young doesn't mean that this person has a potential mental health issue down the road, it means that he is an angry young man with a problem with society. And what can be more sexy than an angry young man? Books and screen plays are written about this human frailty.
How many times have we all said, I'm not surprised ... ran away, went to jail, committed suicide, got divorced etc. etc. He was always depressive, unhappy, angry, rude, etc, etc. We just don't look for the signs, and when we do see them we can't read them. When we manage to read them, it's too late. AJ's friend knew his future wife was reclusive. The signs were in her personality long before their marriage. Then again, AJ's friend himself, needed what this woman provided during their dating, and whatever her behavior was, he found it attractive. If we look at our own relationships we would see many instances where the ability to sign read would have saved us a lot of heartache. That doesn't mean that we would or should dissolve the relationship. We would be more likely to go into the relationship with our eyes open and better equipped to deal with issues head on should any arise. And arise they will sooner or later. It could be immediate, 5 years down the road or 35 years. Heaven help us all preserve our patience, sense of humor and personal integrity. Here's to Psychoanalysis!